Compromising+Positions+Game+Qs


 * Card Design- back:** There are 10 room cards for each of the 4 rooms. Each card has a question and, depending on the type of question (multi-choice, open-answer or role play), the answer or guidelines for facilitator assessment.


 * Card Design- front:** The front of each card indicates the room it belongs too. This allows for easy sorting of the cards by room.

Compromising Positions Game Questions
1. You are a social butterfly making the rounds to visit with all your friends at a party. Switch your placeholder with anyone on the board. 2. You partied too hard and need to go home early. Move your player back to start. 3. The player to your right forgot their coat in the basement. Move their placeholder to any space that isn’t a Party Foul in the basement. 4. You need a condom but don’t have one, so you have to go to the bathroom to check the medicine cabinet. Move your placeholder to any space that isn’t a Party Foul in the bathroom. 5. You just saw your ex dancing with their newest crush. You need some air, so move your placeholder to any space that isn’t a Party Foul on the patio. 6. You notice your friend drank a little too much and is getting a little loud. You take them aside to calm them down. Move three spaces in any direction. 7. You forgot to take your birth control pill three days in a row. Stay where you are and sit out the next turn. 8. You successfully turned down the advances of your best friend and maintained your friendship. Move to any space that isn’t a Party Foul on the back porch. 9. You counseled your friend to visit the health center after they complained of pain when they urinated. Move in any direction three spaces. 10. You planned ahead and took condoms with you to the party. Move to any space that isn’t a Party Foul in the nearest room. 1. You’re worried your friend’s partner is abusive. You’re not sure, but you see a number of warning signs. Describe three potential characteristics of an abusive partner. Accept any of these answers: • Insults his/her partner in public • Acts jealous if their partner talks to others • Checks in on their partner constantly including but not limited to: phone calls or text messages • Blows disagreements out of proportion • Abuses drugs and/ or alcohol • Blames others for their own problems • Additional answers at the facilitator’s discretion 2. You’re worried your friend may in an abusive relationship. You’re not sure but you see a number of warning signs. Describe three potential signs a friends is the victim in an abusive relationship: Accept any of these answers: • Constantly cancels plans for reasons that may or may not sound true • Always worries about making their partner angry • Gives up things that used to be important • Becomes isolated from friends and family • Has bruises or cuts on their body • Additional answers at the facilitator’s discretion 3. You and your friend are in conflict about the definition of rape. They say it is just non-consensual vaginal penetration. You think it involves other forms of assault, like battery. Who is right? What is the definition of rape? Answer: While the legal definition of rape in most states is limited to forced, nonconsensual vaginal penetration, in common usage, rape refers to many different forms of sexual assault, including sodomy, oral copulation, and sexual battery. 4. Your roommate told you that a close friend coerced them to have sex last night when they were drunk. Would this be considered rape even if they were good friends? Why? Answer: Yes, it would be acquaintance rape. The only difference is that acquaintance rape involves two people who know each other. 5. Your mom always warned you to be extra cautious at a party or club. Name two ways you can protect yourself from being a victim of a date rape drug. Accept any of these answers: • Don’t go out alone • Carry your drink with you at all times while at a bar or party • If someone offers to buy you a drink, walk with that person to the bar 6. Gender socialization can contribute to the creation of situations that make rape more likely. Men are socialized to be sexually active and aggressive, while women are socialized to be passive and non-sexual. What is the consequence of this description of gender socialization? Accept any of these answers: • Men may believe that women really want to have sex, even though they say "no" • Men may misinterpret woman's body language • Women may not communicate clearly • Additional answers at the facilitator’s discretion 7. You and your partner have been having a great night together. You started off on the couch watching a movie and moved into the bedroom as the night progressed. Now you want to have sex. What is required in order for your partner to legally consent? Accept any combination of these answers: The partner must be: • Sober • Coherent • Verbal • Consistent • Absence of a "NO" is not a the same as a freely given "YES" 8. Listen to the following conversation between Amy and Kate. (Choose someone another team to role play this script) Amy: Kate, can I talk to you about something serious that happened last night? Kate: Yes, Amy I am listening. Amy: I think I was raped. Do you believe me? Kate: Yes, of course I believe you. Amy: I don’t know what to do. Kate: Let’s first tend to your needs by calling the police and getting you medical attention. What are the three things Kate does in this conversation that you should do if a friend tells you they are raped? Answer:  Listen  Believe your friend  Tend to their needs 9. Choose another player to play the role of your date and role-play the following situation. Your date walks you to your front door after a great night together. They begin to pressure you for an invitation to come inside. You don't feel comfortable with this. Role play what you would say to your date. Facilitator: Use Role Play Evaluation Guidelines to evaluate role play questions. 10. Choose another player to play the role of your partner and role-play the following situation. You are lying in bed with your partner after a great evening out. Slowly your clothes come off and you both want to have intercourse. You start to feel uncomfortable and you decide you don’t want to do this. Role play what you would say to your partner. Facilitator: Use Role Play Evaluation Guidelines to evaluate role play questions. 1. You were at a party last night and had sex without using any form of birth control. You’ve heard you can get those emergency contraceptives. How quickly do you need to take the contraceptive for it to be affective? A. Within 24 hours B. Within 2 days C. Answer: Within 72 hours 2. Oh no! While having sex with your partner the condom broke! Name three ways you can prevent this from happening in the future. Accept any combination of these answers: • Store unused condoms in a cool place (not a wallet) • Check the expiration date on the condom • Open the package carefully making sure not to tear the condom • Use a new condom every time your have sex • When wearing the condom make sure to leave a reservoir tip, space for the ejaculate to go 3. You see an old acquaintance at a party and end up staying the night with her. She says she’s on the pill and so you don’t need to use a condom. What should you do? Answer: A. She is a nice girl, so you figure why not… B. Answer: What? No way. You barely know her and can’t trust her word yet… C. Condoms are a hassle. If she’s got it covered, you’re ok with that… 4. You are fooling around with your new partner. You both want to have sex. Choose two topics from this list that you need to talk about before you agree. How many people you’ve each slept with • Answer: What type of contraceptive method you will use • What positions you like • Answer: STD protection 5. Choose another player to play the role of your partner and role-play the following situation. You want to start having sex with your partner, but first you need to talk to them about what contraceptives you will. Role play what you will say. Facilitator: Use Role Play Evaluation Guidelines to evaluate role play questions. 6. Twice this week you forgot to take your birth control pill. Both times, you doubled-up on pills the next day. Should you feel safe to have sex without a condom and not get pregnant? Answer: A. Yes, as long as I take my pill from now on, I should have no worries. B. Answer: No, I should definitely use a back-up method of contraception for the remainder of the month. C. Yes, I will be fine. Just in case I will just ask him to pull-out 7. Your roommate told you there are certain times of the month when a girl is less likely to become pregnant, like when she has her period. Is this true or false? Why? Answer: False. While there are certain times of the month woman are less likely to become pregnant, trying to plan sex around them is not a valid method of birth control. For instance, a woman isn’t able to accurately pinpoint when she is ovulating by any outward signs. 8. You hear your friends advocating questionable methods of birth control that you know aren’t true. Name three birth control myths. Accept any combination of these answers:  Douching after sex  The man "pulls out" before ejaculation  Having sex during a women's period  Bathing after sex  Specific sexual positions  Woman avoids having an orgasm 9. You and your partner are talking about having sex and what birth control method you should use. Name two forms of birth control, besides a condom. Accept any combination of these answers:  The patch  Nuva ring  Dental dam  Barrier  Spermicidal  Oral Contraceptives 10. Choose another player to play the role of your partner and role-play the following situation. You are sitting on your partner's sofa kissing and it feels nice. But then you feel your partner's hand moving toward your genital area. You begin to feel uneasy because that's your boundary, but you haven't talked about it before. Role play what you will say. Facilitator: Use Role Play Evaluation Guidelines to evaluate role play questions. 1. Are you and your partner in a healthy relationship? Choose the three characteristics from this list describe a healthy relationship. a. Passion b. Answer: Communication c. Passiveness d. Answer: Respect e. Answer: Honesty 2. You have been dating your partner for three months. Now, you are reflecting on this time together to decide if they respect you and if you have been respectful in return. Name two qualities of a respectful relationship. Accept any combination of these answers: • The relationship between partners involve give and take • Both partners agree on the terms of the relationship • Sexual and physical boundaries are honored • Partners are not jealous or resentful • Additional answers at the facilitator’s discretion 3. The next three statement describe good communication in a relationship. Fill in the following blanks with the proper verb, noun or adjective. Facilitator: Accept alternate answers at the facilitator’s discretion. Do not lie about your feelings. Be ________________. Answer: honest a. Keep an open mind and prepare for _________ because your partner will not always agree with you. Answer: opposition b. Be willing to _____________ so you can attend to your partner's needs and wants, in addition to your own. Answer: compromise 4. Your partner has asked you to be an active listener. How can you do this? Accept any combination of these answers:  Being quiet when the other person is speaking. Don’t interrupt  Restate and reflect the others’ feelings and concerns  Respond to what your partner says and offer feedback if they request it  Additional answers at the facilitator’s discretion 5. Choose another player to play the role of your partner and role-play the following situation. You are having a difficult time juggling all your commitments: school, friends, athletics, being club president, family, and your relationship. Practice being an active communicator and tell them your time management problem. Role play what you will say. Facilitator: Use Role Play Evaluation Guidelines 6. You just found out through a third party that your partner had sex with your next-door neighbor. You are mad and think you want to break it off with them. How should you handle the situation? Call you partner and accuse them of cheating A. Confront the person who had sex with your partner B. Call your partner and break up with them over the phone immediately, you knew they could never be trusted C. Answer: Ask your partner to explain what happened and determine if the sexual relationship happened before you were dating or after before you can make a clearheaded decision about what you want to do 7. Your roommate’s partner is waiting at the door of your place; they have forgotten your roommate is out of town for the weekend. You both hang out for a while, but then they try to kiss you. You think they are really cute, your roommate will probably never find out… what should you do? Discuss the pros and cons of your decision. Facilitator: Assess the answer at your discretion Kiss away, but make them swear to secrecy. If your roommate found out, you definitely wouldn’t be friends anymore. A. When your roommate gets back, tell them their partner made a pass at you, but you rejected the offer. B. Tell the partner to leave and tell the roommate what happened when they get back. C. Tell the partner to leave and don’t tell the roommate what happened when they get back. 8. How can you tell if you really like a classmate or are just infatuated with them? What is the difference between like and infatuation? Facilitator: Assess the answer at your discretion • Like forms the basis for close friendships, but isn’t passionate nor committed. Liking is often an enduring kind of love. • Infatuation is described as "Love at first sight." Infatuations are often one-sided and may be obsessive and all-consuming. Infatuation is marked by sudden passion and physical and emotional arousal. 9. You logged onto Facebook and to your shock saw that your partner has changed their status to “single”! How has the integration of technology, like Facebook, Twitter, Skype, and cell phones, impacted healthy relationship? What are two pros and two cons of such technology? Facilitator: Assess the answers at your discretion Pros  Good way to show your love to the world  Great way to keep in touch especially when both parties are busy  Quick and easy communication Cons  Impersonal  May spur jealous behavior (ex. a flirty comment is left by someone NOT in the intimate relationship, or a suggestive picture is taken with one of the partners)  Text messaging while intoxicated or angry can be damaging 10. It seems like all your friends are in relationships. You are beginning to feel envious and dream about the perfect relationship. You are obsessed with the idea of consummate love, which is characterized by Intimacy + Passion + Commitment. This type of love takes work to sustain and must be continually nourished because it’s subject to stress over time. Do you think consummate love is realistic between people in college? Provide 2 reasons to justify your response. Facilitator: Assess the answers at your discretion **Basement - 10 question cards relating to STDs and sexual health** 1. Describe the critical difference between a viral STD and a bacterial STD and name one of each. Answer:  A viral STD, such as HIV or genital warts, is cause by a virus and cannot be cured.  A bacterial STD, such as syphilis or Chlamydia, is caused by bacteria and can be cured. 2. You had a one-night stand with a partner you don’t really know and you didn’t use protection. If you’re concerned about being at risk for the HIV infection, when should you schedule an HIV antibody test at a health care facility? A. Within three months of the unprotected sexual encounter B. Answer: Six months after the unprotected sexual encounter C. Within one year after the unprotected sexual encounter
 * 10 Chance Cards **
 * Dorm Room - 10 question cards relating to consent, rape, and abuse **
 * Bathroom - 10 question cards relating to contraceptives **
 * Back porch - 10 quest ** i ** on cards relating to healthy communication and manners **

3. You partner tells you that if they use just a condom you both will be 100% safe and protected from sexually transmitted diseases. Is this true or false? Explain the justification for your answer. Answer: False. No method is fail proof. STDs like lice, scabies and HPV can be transmitted from proximity or skin-to-skin contact in areas not covered by a condom. Condoms can malfunction or be used improperly. Abstinence is the only 100% sure way to protect yourself against STDs. 4. How are most STDs transmitted? Answer: STDs may be transmitted by sexual contact that involves the exchange of bodily fluids such as semen, vaginal secretions, and blood and by direct skin contact with an infected area. 5. Name the four fluids that HIV can be transmitted through. Answer: 1. Blood 2. Semen 3. Vaginal secretions 4. Breast milk 6. You caught genital herpes from your last partner. Now you are very nervous because you think you are at a higher risk of getting HIV. Is this true? Answer:  HIV is transmitted similarly to other STDs, so the behaviors that spread one STD are also likely to spread HIV.  Any time there is a compromised area of the skin, as in genital herpes, it may provide an easier route for a virus like HIV. 7. Your partner claims to have had genital warts break out last week, but insists that if you use a condom you will be safe and not get it. Are they correct? Justify your answer with an explanation why. Answer: No! This STD can be transmitted through SKIN TO SKIN contact! Although condoms can prevent diseases like genital herpes and genital warts (HPV), one can still catch them even using contraceptives. 8. Your partner tells you they haven’t ever had an STD because they practice abstinence. What does this mean and is their claim accurate? Answer: Abstinence is refraining from any behaviors likely to transmit STDs or cause pregnancy. It is the only 100% sure method of assuring that STDs are not transmitted through sexual contact. 9. You are really great at practicing safe sex to lower your risk for transmission of STDs and unintended pregnancy. Safer sex involves implementing strategies to avoid the transmission of bodily fluids that can spread most STDs and cause pregnancy. What is the most common strategy to avoid the transmission of bodily fluids during sex? Answer: • Latex condom with a spermicide and/or lubricant • Latex square with a lubricant 10. You are your partner are not ready to have sex, however there are still plenty of other sexual activates that decrease, although not eliminate, your risk of STD infection and unintended pregnancy while still providing intimacy and sexual satisfaction. Name two of these activities. Facilitator: Assess the answers at your discretion  Oral sex  Masturbation  Heavy petting  Massage